Feelings

I don't know about you guys, but I ALWAYS feel real bad when I make someone upset. I often have this bad habit of not thinking things through before I do them, and this often causes me to make someone upset. I then have this HUGE regret, thinking that I could have done it in a better way, so as not to make the person upset.

Sometimes my friends tell me that I over-think things. They tell me that I shouldn't worry too much about other peoples' feelings and just do what I want to do. But I just can't shake the feeling that I have done something bad. Even after I apologise to that person and s/he says that it's alright, I still feel really bad inside,

even more if the person is like close to me, like a friend or a relative. 

Am I actually over-thinking things? 

What can I do to make things better between us?

After I apologize and the person forgives me, should I just go along with it and act as if things are back to normal?

Over the years, I have learnt that different people deal with this issue differently. Some people are really good at keeping grudges. They forgive you on the surface, but deep down they are still hurt. And then there are those people that don't seem to remember that you hurt them at all. They totally forget about it the next day and act as if nothing happened!! Sometimes I wish I could be that kind of a person...

Oh well, the important thing is to apologize once you found out you have made a mistake, and move on with life. No point trying to see whether the person has forgiven you or not. Whatever that has happened, has happened and life has to go on. Time waits for no man, or woman!

XOXO,

Audrey Leow